The games people play.

We are “all” simulating sex ¨. Music videos are the public arena for passive sex which influences people. Teenagers seem to be the most exploited group when it comes to this kind of influence. We do not only see this when it comes to music videos, but it also appears in other arenas such as fashion and commercials, to mention something. I’d like to call it another form of peer pressure. It’s not when the people you hang out with is pressuring you to do something, to wear something or to listen to a special kind of music. It’s when the people who make commercials or direct music videos take over that role. They have the ability to use people your age group look up to, as a role model for their clothing line or the music video they are promoting. We can’t continue saying that we are not influenced by everything we see around us.

Some days ago as I was watching ZTV, music channel, Ciaras new video “like a boy” appeared on the screen. This was the first time I saw it. She dated Lill Bow Wow, a young rapper who was in the spotlight during 2000. It’s no longer a secret that he had been cheating on her, well not for me, since I’ve now seen her new video. She is singing about that “sometimes she wish she did it like a boy”. It’s the classical story of a boy playing games, being out late, talking to other people and not saying where he has been or who he has talked to. She wants to switch roles and see how the guys would react if girls started taking over this “playing games” role. Isn’t that what we all do sometimes, playing games? After seeing that video, I wanted to have a shirt just like her. It was a plain white shirt, but I wanted it. She was wearing it, she was dancing in it and she was even singing “I wish I did it like a boy” in it. I think every girl out there have at least one time felt the issues of boys playing them around, like toys? But, now it’s time to switch the roles. It’s time for woman all over the globe to stand up for themselves, but it wouldn’t hurt to buy some baggy clothes in the process, neither a cute baby doll dress or the way to expensive Manolo blanhik shoes. Ciaras message lies within her music, but the clothes she is wearing in the video is made by someone and that person has given the clothes a label. This person mission is to sell clothes and by putting them on an artist, like Ciara in a music video which has a strong message and are viewed especially by many young people, it is an effective way to promote the clothes.

Why did everyone start to wear those big glasses? Why do I own three scull- scarfs? Why did I order a yellow pant? I’d like to say that I’m not affected and that everything I wear is my own style. It’s a mixture of everything that fascinates me, sometimes a like to say that my style is how I view the world. It reflects upon that. When I viewed the world as cruel and I all I wanted to do was to disappear, almost everything I had in my closet was black. I just blended in with everyone, I was natural. At that time the student dress code the get into the student house was black clothing and black sunglasses. It was a way of being intellectual and immature. If you felt like you weren’t like everybody else, you could be this unit people looked at without questioning how you stood according to what everyone else believed in.

It was like everybody needed to know everyone. I knew about music and sometimes people appreciated my knowledge. I wasn’t too much and I wasn’t too little, just enough to blend in without really being noticed. If I was a person who tried to be who I wanted to be, without dearing to be who I really was, it was because I didn’t have the courage or maybe I hadn’t found myself at that time. I see year by year how I mature and start to like the person I am becoming. It’s a process that always will be a process.

What influences you and how to do use it to define yourself? How do you use this in a positive way to promote yourself as an individual with a strong signature on your place in the society?

Everybody wants to be noticed as they live and remembered when they die.